Green eyed monsters

12 Nov

As it turns out, even this humble blog can still teach me things.

I look at wedding things every day. I look at what vendors on Etsy are selling. I look at what people on message boards are discussing. I look at what other brides are planning. I look at pictures of other couples’ wedding days. I look for inspiration. I look for ideas. I look because it’s all so easy to find.

I thought I had a complex about some things because I’m spending less money, or I’m less creative, or I didn’t get the hippest photographer. I thought I was a unique little snowflake of a bride with my insecurities. I’m guessing someone reading this feels the same way.

So here’s what I want to tell you today. It doesn’t come with inspiration photos or pithy post titles. Sorry about that. I’ll do better after this, I promise. I have wedding envy. Of basically all of you. I am just a covetous little bride. I see your pictures and hear your ideas and I’m convinced that my centerpieces aren’t cool enough, my shoes aren’t bright enough, and my hair flower isn’t big enough. I’m sure my napkins will be folded wrong and cake will ultimately look silly. Every once in a while I wonder if anyone will ever be able to see what I meant them to see when this is all executed, or if it will look like a weird hodgepodge thrown together by a crazy woman.

I have wedding envy. And I bet you do too.

It was a reader who taught me that while I’m being jealous of someone’s super cute details, there is someone being jealous of mine. At some point, we are all convinced we’re not living up to.. well… something. But there is no something to live up to. And we are all planning what will be a perfect day for us. So why are we beating ourselves up so much?

Right. There is no reason.

So listen here. Let’s just let go. Let’s piece our own celebrations together with love and they will be beautiful. Let’s build our own dreams. Let’s all relax a little. Oh and Kelly (you know who you are)? I’m sure your shutters with your escort cards and your cigar bar will be amazing. Even without a monogram or e-pics. I just hope I get to see pictures. Not so I can covet, but so I can share a little bit of your happy. 🙂 Also, thanks for the reminder. I needed a little kick.

That is all. Please resume the wedding planning and the tiny details. Next time we meet I’ll have flowers and cake to discuss. With pictures even.


4 Responses to “Green eyed monsters”

  1. Kelly November 13, 2010 at 7:25 am #

    How did you know that is exactly how I feel but could not articulate it? I know that we are kindred spirits, I look forward to sharing your special day! Even if it is from afar, it will be close by heart! Thanks for making my day!

  2. Cheryl November 13, 2010 at 3:33 pm #

    What a great post. It’s so hard to feel up to par in the wedding world, because there are simply so many of us, and as someone once told me, there is ALWAYS going to be someone better.

    However, like you mentioned, it is important to realize that while we are jealous of someone else, there will always be someone jealous of us. I guess ultimately the important thing is that we marry the person we love, and our wedding reflects us as a couple. Beyond that, it doesn’t matter.

  3. Encore Bride November 14, 2010 at 7:04 pm #

    Thanks for understanding me!

  4. Leana November 16, 2010 at 12:07 pm #

    Hey there! I found your blog via WB. I just had to comment on this post as you wrote it so well! You are right, I think we all go through this…is what we are doing good enough? Will it look silly or haphazard? Oh well, ultimately as long as the wedding is about me and the future hubs that is all that matters.

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